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Now, after the non-event, the cultists suddenly wanted publicity. They wanted media attention and coverage. So they could explain how their faith and obedience had helped save the planet from the flood. The aliens had spared planet Earth for their sake - and now their role was to spread the word and make us all listen. This fascinated Festinger.
He observed that the real driving force behind the cultists' apparently inexplicable response was the need not to face the awkward and uncomfortable truth and change their minds, but rather to 'make minds comfortable' - to smooth over the unacceptable inconsistencies.
This is an extreme example, but I think cognitive dissonance goes on all the time in small but significant ways. Festinger coined the term 'cognitive dissonance' to describe the uncomfortable tension we feel when we experience conflicting thoughts or beliefs cognitions or engage in behaviour that stands in opposition to our stated beliefs.
Think of the woman who states she believes in faithfulness but has an affair with a neighbour's husband. Now, to help balance the books and feel that she is consistent with her own values, she may have to convince herself that she is helping him because his wife is abusive or doesn't understand him. I have seen this happen. Or take the a-day smoker who tells you as they wheeze their guts up that smoking hasn't affected their health but they really do feel they are spending too much money on it.
I've seen that happen too. What about those people who fail to take any action towards some goal they had loudly and publicly proclaimed they were going to achieve, citing some lame reason as to why it wasn't a good idea after all. I have done that myself! The woman doesn't say, "I am behaving in a way that contradicts my stated value system! This smoking is stealing my life from me! It can seem easier to employ a bit of comfortable denial.
It's a shame, because that kind of honesty might just get us somewhere. And some people are that honest - or learn to be when they have to.
What is particularly interesting is the lengths to which people will go to reduce their inner tension rather than concede that they might, in fact, be wrong. They will accept almost any form of relief if it means they don't have to admit being at fault, or mistaken. This is effectively choosing short-term comfort over long-term happiness. Cognitive dissonance isn't about lying but rather being convinced of something because it suits you to be convinced of it.
One part of the self has lied to another part. Festinger quickly realized that our tendency towards 'cognitive dissonance' could explain many mysteries of human behaviour. He wanted to see whether the type of denial he saw among members of the flying-saucer cult might also occur in everyday situations.
Those who were paid just one dollar were far more likely to later claim that they had actually believed the lie they were told to tell.
Well, because it's just so much harder to justify having done something that conflicts with your own sense of being 'an honest person' for a mere pittance. If you get more money, you can tell yourself, "Yeah, I lied, but I got well paid!
It was justified. That's not a good enough reason to lie, so what you were saying must have been true in the first place Amazingly, this style of cognitive dissonance what you might call 'not worth the candle' dissonance was the very type instigated and manipulated by the Chinese during the Korean war to re-engineer the beliefs of their American prisoners of war - what came to be known as 'brainwashing'.
Of course, there are other ways to induce and shape beliefs - fear and reward, for example - but the Chinese captors during the Korean conflict worked on their prisoners more subtly at least some of the time by taking advantage of cognitive dissonance effects. Some US captives were offered extra rice or candies for writing anti-American, pro-Chinese essays.
Some of the soldiers that went along with it actually subsequently converted to communism. I would posit that this worked via the exact same mechanism as the one-dollar 'liars' coming to believe that they hadn't, in fact, told a lie. No one wants to believe they sold out for a bowl of rice or some candy. The reason or lack thereof is the core problem that hypnosis seeks to correct. Compulsive or chronic lying is actually believed to be a symptom rather than a mental disorder of its own.
It could be symptomatic of narcissism or delusional thinking, in which case the lies that are told by the liar are reality to them so they are unaware that they are lying.
It does this through a therapeutic script that allows for better organization of data that is real and that which is merely perceived by the liar. Chronic lying usually begins in childhood. All parents have heard their child state clearly they have brushed their teeth, only to find a dry toothbrush in the holder.
It is when this habit continues into adolescence that there may be another disorder assigned to it, since at this age young adults begin to truly understand the consequences of lying.
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I saw my mom hide bills and money issues away from him and knowing that she had lied to him. I have been around it all my life right up until I left home to go to flat. I always thought I would not be like them and change but I saw two people love each other lying and thought that was right, in a strange way.
I know I have always wanted to be loved, liked, people someone can talk to. I have thought I could get away with it all but I never have. I have hurt people made them upset and angered a lot of people on the way and always said that I would change or not happen again.
Every time I have gone back on my word and I am truly sorry to everyone that I have done it to especially you and my family.
I have always wanted my family to be proud of me and doing certain things and lying to people I thought that was right because I have always been around it and got away with it. Hey there, My name is Seth and today something bad really happened. Like any other people here, i am a compulsive liar.
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